| "should you be able to grab behind the neck from in front of the snake?"
Why do you want to grab the snake like this? This should not be part of your normal handling.
"should you be able to eventually stroke your snake on the head?"
No. If you are trying to do this, it may be the reason why your snake is so defensive.
"should you be able to give your snake to a 4 year old to hold and know its not going to matter what the kid does?"
Again no. I have docile snakes that kids can handle but I would never trust one with a 4 year old unless it was under very, very close supervision.
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Why wont my snake fetch? That's right..because he is not a dog.
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