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[mrsshep77]

When you get her out to handle her do things with your hands in front of her so she gets used to movement in front of her and knowing that it's not going to hurt her. My spotted is a one in a million cause when she has trouble shedding I put her in my hands and she just seems to know I'm helping and she's so still while I get the skin off. Then she has a bath to soak her and she would lay in there for hours!
If it's going to be something that happens often (which it can in hatchlings, until they learn how to di it properly themselves) then start making movements etc when she's NOT shedding so she becomes aware of your hands and what they are doing isn't going to hurt. She'll eventually get used to you helping her. You'll probably find the oil will make her more aware of the skin still on her and she'll start rubbing it off. Do you have a couple of rough rocks in her enclosure or something similar?
If you're not confident in taking the next step it might be time to seek help.
Good Luck