There are issues and responsibilities on both sides if a successful shipping outcome is to be achieved. This is not to say that shipper has not been remiss but as a buyer there are things you might do and wish to have writing before making the final payment.
I started a separate thread to try and tease out a checklist
Thanks for your support everyone, much appreciated. I just hope no one else goes through what I did, so be careful because there are scammers out there…………………
