@Recharge, or anyone else that cares to answer. Does being BI mean you can love both men and women emotionaly or is it purely a physical thing? Obviously for gay people it runs a lot deeper than just physical attraction.
I gather that a lot of gay guys and gals had hetero relationships before they decided to be true with themselves and their sexuality, did any of you love your hetero partners in the same sense as you love your gay partners? Yes I was married for 12 yrs and have come out only 4 yrs ago. It was mainly the pressure from society family and the like stopped me being who I always wanted to be. I loved my wife for who she is as a person and was attracted to her being and all her fantastic attributes but of course the over all it's not the same, just put yourself in the same situation in your mind you just know it's not right for you.
I know I upset a few people, and although it wasn't my intention I knew my beliefs would, however I think there is some positive to be taken from my posts, that is, they have given you the opportunity to put your beliefs and ideas forward about a subject that is obviously important to the wider gay community.
I am not sold on whether gay couples should be parents, or should be allowed access to adoption/ivf etc, but I will say that I am questioning some of the reasons I feel this way towards gay couples raising children. What are you reasons?
I don't believe my views are discriminatory but if others feel they are I make know apologies. As a community whether we are gay, bi, straight, black, white or whatever, we have a responsibility as adults to protect our children, not just our own, all of them. Protecting from what? Kids will be hassled bullied at school for anything, having a mole on your face can get you a nickname with torment attached when at school kids are cruel it's a fact but we can't sugar coat life or make plastic bubbles on a of chance something may happen. As a community we need to install and maintain laws, standards, guidelines and policies which help insure that our children are given the best opportunity to grow up in an environment that is condusive to their good health and wellbeing. I believe the rights of children come before the rights of gay couples because they are depending on us to make the right decision for them. What if you ask a child if they'd like to spend the rest of their days in an orphanage or have two people that want to do the right thing and educate love and promote personal growth giving a loving supportive upbringing.
Maybe I'm wrong, maybe gay couples should be given the same opportunities afforded everyone else to raise their own families, or maybe I'm right. Should we give ourselves, as a society, the opportunity to fail our children even further?How is it a fail to love support and help a child grow into a respecting open minded adult? People have used the argument that there is drugies and abusers etc raising children, agreed, but does this mean we should give society another opportunity to fail them? Is this from any personal experience that you know children will be failed by GLBTQI community?
I understand that some of you are passionate advocates for gay rights and equality, but to those that felt abusing me would help get their message across you are mistaken, in all likely hood if you react in the same way everytime someone with similar views to me speaks up, they'll just rally against you even harder
