coping wiht loss
So sorry to hear u lost Arby.
i dont deal with it well, so cant really offer advice on 'coping'
i just cry,...alot, i cry on the train, at work, at home, when i think of her, see pics of her, its awful and makes me feel so pathetic.
i lost my first and fave beardy of 5 and a half years a couple of months ago, she went from perfectly normal, (ate, pooed, and was active that day) to having a head shaking fit, and just laying there. I rushed her straight to the vet, we were there within 40 mins, i she was unconscious and not breathing. they resucitated her and i stayed wieth her till they said she was 'stable'and after 8 hours of breathing support her heart failed (6 times before they let her go.)
dont know if i felt worse that i put her thru that or if i would have felt worse just letting her go peacefully. i feel like crap for going home, i didnt realise i would never see her alive again.
i brought her body home before i had her cremated so i could say goodbye and in the hope her spirit would be released in her home, i hate the fact that she died in an unfamiliar place around strangers.
i feel like my heart has been ripped out and nothing helps, it was really hard seeing the other beardies mourn her too, i slept on the lounge with the 2 that she was closest to for a few weeks till they looked less sad and stopped looking for her. they looked at me like i'd betrayed them, they saw me leave with her , then never saw her again.
i dont really agree that getting a new animal asap helps, i wished i could have cancelled the shinglebacks that were already on the way. i didnt feel i had the energy to take on anything new at the time.
having said that, it seems one of the new shingles has adopted so much of my Chubby, from the way he pushes his head into my hand, to his wide eyed alert look, to being totally food orientated to their shared fetish with the shoe pile. They even have the same favourite corner in the dining room and under the dishwasher, so i am glad i got htem after all.
Hope u feel better soom LadyJ.
Chris.
ps, im a girl so its ok that im a sook!