I have a pair of Eclectus and they both have their own personality like anything .. i guess it depends on what colour your looking for ha-ha .. well here is something i found online.
[h=2]What is the difference?[/h]A smart husband knows never to argue with their wife as they will always be wrong, well same goes for our Eccy hens! They are head strong, super confident, ridiculously smart and know how to get exactly what they want, when they want it !! An Eccy hen will always keep you on your toes as they are forever changing the ground rules and if you love a challenge then you will have a heck of a lot of fun to try to keep up with their inquisitive and tenacious little minds.
As youngsters (3 months - 12 months) the hens and males really behave much the same. My males (at this age) do tend to be a little (and only a tiny bit) more cuddly where and my hens are a little more independent, yet this varies from parrot to parrot. My hens however are usually the first to want their snuggle time yet they want it 'their way' and are quick to tell you if your not doing it exactly right. While the guys are happy to sit and play with their toys or have some preening time our hens will be in mental overdrive, observing and taking in everything around them, assessing their environment and looking for different ways to get up to mischief and have some fun.
My boys love their cuddles but also need a fair bit of 'quiet' time, flying back to their cage or playstand to sit and think deep birdie thoughts. My hens are snuggle bug's too but prefer to keep their parents on their toes by alternating from cuddles to game time, back to cuddles then charging round the couch playing some form of game that amuses them at the time, then chilling out for more cuddles once bored with the latest game. So in short, both my boys and girls are very affectionate, its the 'in between' time that tends to differ a little.
From 1 year on hormones are starting to kick in and by the 2 1/2 year mark you will have full fledged teenagers on your hands. When the boys aren't trying to hump anything and everything that moves (or doesn't, there not too fussy) they will be regurgitating on random objects or better yet their parents arm or face, there is nothing quite like the smell of regurgitated fruit to put you off your food. Our hens on the other hand will act like typical teenage humans (maybe not quite that bad) becoming a little moody and temperamental yet contrary to popular belief our hens moods and males urges can be overcome the same way we do with any avian problem, by educating ourselves.
Once our Eccys mature we must always make sure that we are not providing breeding stimulus as that may exacerbate hormone induced problems.
As adult birds I find the hens to be more affectionate towards their human companions while the males, while still cuddly, like their 'quiet' time yet the golden rule applies as always - you only get out of your parrots what you put in and if you are understanding of your parrots developmental stages and their needs during this time you will be able to overcome any 'bumps' in the road while still maintaining the best relationship with your parrot.
I think its time to set the record straight and spread the word that Eclectus hens DO make the most wonderful of pets, they have so much love to give and will lavish this upon those who take the time to earn the trust and respect of these magnificent girls.