Everyone Please read this

[Rach85]

So today was an awful day. A beautiful 19 year old friend of mine attempted to take her own life on Tuesday, and today the life support was turned off.

So I started a thread to plead with every single person that reads this, If it feels like its too hard, and you have started thinking about ending it all, PLEASE DON'T. There's always a better way. Talk to someone, anyone..
Do whatever it takes to drive that thought from your mind..
Today one of the most wonderful people i've ever had the priveledge to know passed away. All because she felt she had no one.

Make sure you tell you loved ones you love them, because you never, ever know.
RIP beautiful girl x

 

[caliherp]

I am sorry for your loss. I know all to well how it feels. I grew up in a place where you are lucky if you live to be 21. I have lost more friends then I can count on my fingers and toes. Three years ago my BEST friend committed suicide. I was a huge shocker. It really tore me up knowing how bad he was hurting inside. Suicide it a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It's extremely selfish. When you get to a certain point things can only get better. Again I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[Rach85]

well said caliherp. This is the fourth friend i've lost through suicide. And my heart breaks for those left behind. My friend's mother found her. No parent should have to deal with that.

 

[disintegratus]

That's really sad Rach, I'm sorry for your loss. I've only lost one friend in the last few years, and that was through complications from what should have been simple surgery. That was devastating enough, but to have someone close to you take their own life intentionally... That's too awful for words.

It sounds corny as hell, but I always make a point of telling my loved ones that I do love them, because you never know what is around the next corner in life, and I would not want to regret not telling them when I had the chance.

 

[sd1981]

That very sad to hear, and I'm very sorry for your loss. My wife suffered from post natal depression and had contemplated taking her own life. Fortunately, we were able to recognise the signs before anything happened and have been able to successfully receive help and move forward into brighter times... A very positive outcome for us and I thank God for having a chance to heal... It's terrible to lose a loved one, especially in such tragic circumstances, and I wish you and the family the best in overcoming your grief....

 

[Gonemad]

It sad to hear about your losses! I'm truly sorry.
Yes it's a selfish way out but when I was young I was only 18 and I felt lost a I never seemed to keep everyone happy and my partner was beating me I thought was my only way out but the only thing that really stopped me was my animals how would they survive would he beat them (dog had not an unbroken bone) as she took some of my beating as she came to my rescue this man was double my age. It never crossed my mind how family would feel and I never told a sole. my friends suspected and my car was my enemy, I changed my situation as I fell pregnant as wanted this baby to survive. My cousin also took his life shot himself with his father finding him after him cutting his wrists didn't work. I know times can get really low and pathetic but if you clear your head and change your outlook on life and console in a friend it will get better.

 

[Rach85]

Thanks everyone.. Good to hear a few positive stories... and im sorry for all of your losses too...

 

[Bananapeel]

Extremely sorry for your loss Rach. Fortunately I have never experienced someone close to me taking their own lives and hope I never will. I have experienced deaths but not in circumstances like this. My heart goes out to her family and all her friends like you.
Please do take another option if you are in tough circumstances. Particularly as it is the end of the year which means exam times for high school and uni students adding to life's pressures.
RIP xxx

 

[jairusthevirus21]

Such a shame... most people to through this stage of their life but as said before. Its temporary... I had a friend that was heading in the same way! I said to him "Are you starving in Africa? Are you being shot at every day? Do you have to fight and sqaubble just to put something in your hungry stomach?" NO??? Then you have nothing to be depressed about. You should be Cheering!!! This altered the way he looked at things and completely changed his attitude... but it all relative isnt it?

 

[sharky]

I am so sorry for your loss That is devastating....
People don't understand when they take their lives that they hurt the people around them. 2 of my mums friends have comitted suicide in the past month and it has devasted and hurt everyone around those two people. The sad thing is people who commit these things never realise how much they will be missed or how much they already are loved. This world has so much to live for. ]For those of you who are struggling: never give up hope or stop dreaming because you will get where you want to be one day and things will get better so don't do this to yourself!!!

RIP to all of those who have taken their own lives. There are people who love and who will always remember you in their hearts

 

[Rach85]

thats well said sharkyy

 

[Grogshla]

Sorry for your loss.
Sometimes it's not as easy as you would think.

 

[emmalene_bunny]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I only know to well how hard it is losing someone so close to you to suicide, both my mum when I was 13, she left behind myself, my younger sister and 3 years brother & two of my very close friends I have lost to this devastating act. Everyone who has commented is completely right, they will never know or understand the suffering or know how much they are truly loved and will be missed, what those last words would have been, should have been to them. I understand that sometimes it's hard to always be fighting to live when the world seems so empty around you, and the affects that it leaves on you are so permanent and so heartbreaking. I urge anyone with any feeling like this to please speak up, your pain isn't worth your life.
I hope your ok Rach and all of my deepest condolences to both you, your family, your friends family and friends, your all in my thoughts.
Em xx

 

[Bluetongue1]

At these moments in our lives we strain to understand and come to terms with such a harsh reality. We hurt through and through. We replay things over and over in our minds and say to ourselves: “If only…” Sadly, we find no solace in such thoughts - just the measure our own impotence. To do something… anything positive, is important.

I have been both sides of the fence. True depression is NOT a feeling… it is a medical condition in which a lack of certain chemicals in our brain totally alters who we are and how we feel. Full blown depression is the blackest of black holes to be in. It totally eradicates one’s ability to experience of any form. You are no longer capable of feeling love or affection. You can recognise it but you don’t ‘see’ the point to it. Joy, enjoyment, satisfaction all totally cease to be. You become totally unable to experience joy of any kind. Add to that the unresolvable anxiety that often accompanies severe depression. You move quickly from there being absolutely no point to existing, to the world being an intolerable place.

Trauma induced depression and clinical depression can be treated. The hard part is recognising the need and then working to get help for someone who is not going to want due to the insidious nature of the ailment.

I am sharing this with you in the hope it may give you some measure of insight and the hope that you will not be too harsh on yourself.

 

[falconer]

soo sory for your loss. i have never experienced this before and could not even think of how much pain your in and if you are thinking about it think of all of those people that have encoraged you

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open your eyes and see the world for what it is and do your best to overcome it

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if you have overcome your problem make sure you thank the people that were by your side the whole time because they are your real friends

 

[elapid@]

some people say its the easiest way out but I would have to say it would have to be one of the hardest things in life to do, for some one to take there own life must be suffering the worst you can imagine for death then rather then life, every one is different some people tolerate pain more then others and some people can take criticism more then others but you just don't no who suffers as we hide our feelings and emotions and thoughts to our self , my opinion is that if life's that bad then it cant get any worse. I know of a few people that have taken there own life and these where the last people I thought would come to this. I always treat people how I would like to be treated and that's with respect... we live in a society where your judged where you may feel less then they are because you don't have or look a certain way and unfortunately it affects the younger generation as there still learning how to control there emotions and thoughts , life can be cruel but where only here once for a short time so make the best of it and don't let others drag you down, but be there for others that are in need of your suport.

 

[BIGBANG]

i'm sorry for your loss and as the people that are left behind it is always the hardest, i fully believe that suicide is the cheats and weak way out!!!! sorry if that offends some people but it is how i feel and i can never forgive the people that have done it, they feel **** and they feel the world is against them, poor me poor me! i have recently lost my 11 month old nephew that had the world against him, he was born missing 80% of his brain and there for was extremely disabled, he suffered continual fits and, couldnt not eat and had to be fed through a tube down his throat, could not control his core body temp and was on more drugs than a chemist has on there shelves, my brother and his wife could nt leave his side, someone had to be with him 24/7 as he could not swallow and would choke on his saliva anywhere up to 50 times a day so if they went to the toilet he would have to be there so they could watch him, he was air lifted to hospital more times than i can count, and my brother and his wife were told he would not live for long and had to make the heart breaking decision to put a "do not revieve" order on him so that the hospital didnt bring him back if he passed, now this beautiful little boy battled on for 11 months even though the world was against him and and bought light into the hearts of everyne that met him, the day before my brothers wedding day in march someone took their eye off him for a minute while setting up and when my brother loked at him he was blue and not moving because he had choked on his saliva, my brother grabbed him and he moved so he blew into his mouth and cleared his throat and he took a breath, he was then rushed to the royal childrens in melb where they were again told that he wouldnt make the night, but again he did, they organised a nurse from hospital to bring him out so he could be at their wedding, 45 mins before the wedding the nurse called us in and told us he was fading and wasnt going to make it and then she told us he was gone, watching my brother holding his dead baby boy screaming at hi to come back just long enough for his mummy to get there to say good bye is something that still haunts me today. But in the true spirit of this little soldier after a 5-10 mins he took anther breath and started breathing again, i reorganised the whole wedding service in about 5 mins and started it there and then so he could be apart of it, after the service he went back to hospital for another 3 days. my brother lives in northern nsw and returned home with his little boy. 1 month exactly before his 1st birthday i got the phone call saying he was not well. and not long after that i got the phone call to say he has finally passed but not without a fight. he had been declaired dead twice by a nurse that was at my brothers house the entire last day of his life and everytime his mummy would give him a kiss and tell him she loved him and he is now free the little bloke would come back for one last crack and finally after the 3rd time they were told he was gone his mummy got up without saying a word and walked out of the room so he could finally pass.

NOW TELL ME HOW BAD YOUR WORD IS, and that things are so bad you take your own life !!!! if anyone has the right to hate the world it is my brother and his wife after the 11 months they had while their son was alive and now to have to rebuild a life without him.

R.I.P Tyler James Stephens

sorry for y rant i get a bit emotional about this subject.

 

[Gonemad]

Thanks bigbang I feel for your family. It makes me so cranky to think loving parents lose their presious baby's when others dont know how special child are!

 

[moosenoose]

Truly sad, and all the power to everything you just said. Condolences on losing a loved one to such an insidious condition

 

[BIGBANG]

I don't wanna take over this thread or the sadness the OP is feeling with my story, but ther is someone always worse off than you, my brother and his wife still get up every morning and go to work, I was talking to my brother just before and told him about what I had written on here and said that I don't know how things could be worse than what he had gone through and his response was there is always someone that has it worse and you just have to play the hand you are dealt in life you. If you are getting picked on at school do something about it, if you are getting bullied at work do something about it, and maybe think about how bad other people have it and they still manage to walk around with a smile on their faces!