Convincing my mum about click clacks

[Andrais]

Hi,
I was wondering if someone could help me out about convincing my mum that its actually good for the a baby snake to go in a click clack? She thinks its not the proper enclosure for a baby snake and that it needs a proper vivaruim straight away, which i could be paying lots of dollars if evertime the snake grew i got a bigger enclosure
I''ve tried telling her, and reading Doc rock's home sweet home to her, but she's just not listening. I guess its the fact she not to keen on getting a snake, and is probally trying to be difficult so i forget about gettting one (she has funny ways of getting around things)
Thanks for all the help
Andrea

 

[gecko-mad]

just get the click-clack, get it set up, go with your DAD to get the snake and come home thats what people tell me

 

[Andrais]

I guess i could go with that, but it would make her very mad, and my dad is just as unkeen about a snake as my mum, but daddy's always give in to their daughters
But she's like threaten to let the snake go and stuff, so as well as 250 dollars going down the drain i don't want anything to happen to the snake either. I've conpromized that the snake will stay in the rumpus room, and she didn't mind that, so i guess your idea could work. Then again, i think its a little childish and irrasponsible so i'll hear wat other forum members have to say before i decide what i am going to do
thanks for your imput anyways

 

[Jazza369]

yeah just make up a small click clack and show her that it has lots of room in it for a bady snake the only like small places
and you woud find they just hide most of the time in a big tank and even smalls one
i have 6 hacthies in click clacks and at first my dad was like your mum no no no click clacks so i made thanks for the hacthies and put them all in there own big tank and hey all dint eat or anything but sence in a click clack eat every time ( beside when in shed)
hope this help
Jarrod

 

[kensai]

Bring her into the Herp group meeting next month, lots of people will soon tell her about click clacks.

 

[gecko-mad]

Bring her into the Herp group meeting next month, lots of people will soon tell her about click clacks.

theres a herp group in adelaide? tell me more!

 

[wranga]

just tell the silly woman that she dont know everything and its time she read up and talked to people that know alittle more than her

 

[Spunkywinkerbean]

Hey maybe you could somehow get her to see a snake in a shop or at someone's house? :|
My 13 year old girl just got her first stimmie, he's 4 months old and in a click clack...they do need to be in a click clack. My mother, her grandma, was very grossed out by the thought of her getting a snake, but once she went into the shop before she bought him, and saw my daughter holding him, she actually became quite fascinated and even ending up holding him herself!!
What about telling her you could put it in a click clack INSIDE a big enclosure if she is scared of him getting out?
As a mum of a teenager, the things that convince me are usually along these lines:
1. Am I going to be lumped with looking after it, and how can you prove to me that I won't be?
2. How can you afford to pay for the initial cost and the upkeep yourself? I don't want to be forking out MY money on ANYTHING to do with it!
My daughter got me because she was so determined that she went out and got herself a part time job last Dec in a $2 shop, at the age of 12, and kept the job for more than 6 months before getting her snake. She still has the job, and enough saved to keep upkeep going if she lost the job..:|
She paid the initial set up costs all herself, and buys the food herself, and even contributes electricity money. She is also costing a large enclosure and all the bits and pieces and has already saved enough to buy the whole lot.
I guess you just need to really prove to her, and your dad, that you are responsible enough. Us parents have so much on our minds that sometimes we don't take your WANTS too seriously, it's not that we don't care, its just that money is always a worry, running a household etc etc.. we have a lot of responsibilities. A snake is not like a fish and will be around for a very long time, so if you want it that badly, you need to prove to them that this isn't just some latest faze you are into.
My daughter has wanted a snake since she was 4 years old and we told her, come and see us when you are 13 and have kept a job for more than six months. The determined little thing did all that and more, and that more than showed us that she was ready for this type of commitment.
Now she has me hooked, and I want to buy my own...can you believe that? I can't!! :shock:
Sorry for the long reply..I type waaay too fast for my own good! :lol:
Good luck with the convincing!!

 

[Spunkywinkerbean]

P.s- My daughter would probably reply to you herself, but she won't be home for another half hour..she's at work!!!!

 

[Andrais]

Thanks for all the ideas guys!

I've done alot of bad stuff in the past, bringing home stray dogs, ingured snakes and lizards, even stray people
I guess one more little bad act wouldn't hurt, besides she said that she doesn't care what i do with my money or my life, so i guess that gives me the right to have a snake. I'm probally going to go with the hiding idea, as their is NO WAY in this world that im going to get her to go to a reptile club she'll have a spaz! i'll put the click clack in my room on my desk, since its so messy she'll never know its their
Im just thinking about it, what happens if she never finds out and then one day i come out saying i need a 6ft vivaruim, and she asking what for, and i say for the snake that i've been secretly hiding from you for 3 yrs

 

[Andrais]

P:S:
i do actually have a job, as an advertiser manager for my parents business i came up with so many great ideas they hired me, im earning about 100 a week

 

[Spunkywinkerbean]

I was a pretty wild teenager back in the day. Kept things from my parents, snuck out loads etc etc.. been there done that.
But you know what.. you'll never get any respect from them by going behind their backs. I learnt that the hard way.
I'm sorry for you that your relationship with them isn't very open, that sucks. But maybe you could start fresh and try to get them to understand how badly you want this?
Obviously you have a love for caring for animals and people, you just need to show them this in a positive way.

 

[gecko-mad]

Thanks for all the ideas guys!

I've done alot of bad stuff in the past, bringing home stray dogs, ingured snakes and lizards, even stray people
I guess one more little bad act wouldn't hurt, besides she said that she doesn't care what i do with my money or my life, so i guess that gives me the right to have a snake. I'm probally going to go with the hiding idea, as their is NO WAY in this world that im going to get her to go to a reptile club she'll have a spaz! i'll put the click clack in my room on my desk, since its so messy she'll never know its their
Im just thinking about it, what happens if she never finds out and then one day i come out saying i need a 6ft vivaruim, and she asking what for, and i say for the snake that i've been secretly hiding from you for 3 yrs

sounds about right

 

[Spunkywinkerbean]

The only bummer about working for your parents is that they could take the job away from you.
Maybe if you were to go it on your own, not work for them, that would give you more power and they wouldn't be able to use it against you. :| Just a thought...
What is it, do you think, about the snake that makes them negative to the idea? :?
I think you need to work out what the reason is, because that could make a huge difference to how you get them to come around to seeing it from your point of view.
Eg: Is it the snake itself? Or past strays brought home? Or your relationship with them? :?
Hey, they must believe in you enough to employ you, and you are obviously a thinker, so there has to be ways around this that don't involve them losing respect for you (ie: hiding it from them...)

 

[Andrais]

There highest reason they don't want me getting a snake, is fear. It sends chills down their backs even when i make them watch life in cold blood. Eventually they got use to my lizards, even now my mum holds them every now and then Its not that im irrisponsible or anything. all the pets i have are my responsobility. They are also affraid that its going to be them buying the very expensive enclosure, this happened with my blue tongues, as i wasn't finally ready to keep them. But since then i've had other pets and have proen to them that i am responsible enough now. My mum says she's affraid it might bite me, and i'll get hurt. My dad's affraid that it might eat the dog, but i think he was joking overall there quiet scared of them, im the needle in the hay stack in my family

 

[gecko-mad]

you wont get hurt, apparantly its like a pin prick

 

[Andrais]

geckomad: try telling that to my parents

 

[gecko-mad]

geckomad: try telling that to my parents

theres a challenge!:lol::lol:

 

[Lesa]

There highest reason they don't want me getting a snake, is fear. It sends chills down their backs even when i make them watch life in cold blood

You've got to respect the fact that it's their home and if they are uncomfortable with snakes - you may just have to live with their decision. You can keep discussing it with them, but in the end - until you own / rent your own place the ultimate decision lies with your parents. My kids want a turtle (so do I come to think of it) but we don't have the room, and they just have to accept that - as might you re the snake.

 

[Khagan]

Haha if they are scared you will get hurt get a hatchling, they are so tiny they will be like "Awww this cute little thing couldn't hurt anything". Plus then you have an extra excuse for a click clack, tiny snakes fit through really tiny gaps but click clacks are very secure with no gaps .