Getting over GF's/Partners

[Southern_Forest_Drag]

This might sound lame but does anyone have advice for getting over long term relationships? seems to be really eating at me knots in my stomach, getting out of bed to do anything seems beyond me. Sat night i got totally wasted sunday/monday/tuesday/today i've pretty much just been sleeping/lying in bed all day skipped my uni classes, luckily i have holidays at the end of this week. Its been about 4 days hopefully with time it'll get better..

 

[shellfisch]

Keep busy - that doesn't include getting wasted :lol:
Talk to someone - friend/mum/doctor etc.
Go to your uni classes and immerse yourself in knowledge and become really successful.
Success is the best revenge

Good luck

 

[Virides]

I had a girl that dumped me for stupid reasons and I was much the same until I decided to see it for what it was "a stupid reason" and made myself hate her. For me, it was alot easier to think of her under a bad light than it was to think how "great" she was.

At the time this worked and now later on, I still respect her and understand that what we had was good for what it was, but the pain of the breakup doesnt hurt because I removed all the "miss" factor.

I haven't seen her for 4yrs now, and don't intend on catching up at all.

 

[Australis]

Rebound(s)..

 

[dreamkiller]

a meaningless fling

 

[Tinky]

Find a cougar

 

[wranga]

your got the net. theres lots of chat/dating sites. pick up and have as much fun as you can. you might even find theres someone there thats worth more than just abit of fun, but enjoy yourself in the mean time

 

[Braidotti]

Go out and party with your mates.

 

[sookie]

Females go thru this too.Knotted stomach,crying all the time,no appetite and sleeping/lying about all day.last time it happened to me (long time ago now) get up,shower,spruce yourself up,go get drunk,pick a fight,get laid,go home.you will feel better.but time heals all wounds.

 

[SamNabz]

Just get back out there and party, meet new girls you're still young mate, you'll be right...

Warning: Do not get too drunk as it will almost always end up with you getting home somehow and drunk dialing the ex or a friend of hers....sobbing

Good luck

 

[Southern_Forest_Drag]

Females go thru this too.Knotted stomach,crying all the time,no appetite and sleeping/lying about all day.last time it happened to me (long time ago now) get up,shower,spruce yourself up,go get drunk,pick a fight,get laid,go home.you will feel better.but time heals all wounds.

You pretty much hit exactly how im feeling besides the crying, think i've eaten maybe one meal and half an apple in like 4 days.
Its kind of complicated though which makes it even harder.. had only been getting up to shower then straight back to bed. Decieded today i would try and go out to the gym or something although i doubt ill go to uni.

 

[saximus]

Really sorry to hear about your pain dude but you really have to get out of the house. Going to uni and seeing friends and getting your mind on your study will be a thousand times better than sitting at home being upset and will help to put things in perspective. For me, seeing that the world hadn't stopped (in fact the world didn't even notice) helped to realise this. You're only so young too, this is when you should be having the most fun, not being upset over something that you will laugh about in a couple of years. You will see eventually that these are the life experiences that everyone goes through and the ones that define us and provide the opportunities to grow and learn.

 

[waruikazi]

Warning: Do not get too drunk as it will almost always end up with you getting home somehow and drunk dialing the ex or a friend of hers....sobbing

Good luck

LOL @ DUI's!

YouTube - DUI - HAR MAR SUPERSTAR (Official Music Video) - High Resolution

 

[SamNabz]

lmfao Gordo

 

[Laghairt]

If you're already depressed, you should stay away from alcohol which is a depressant and will make you feel worse in the long run.

 

[waruikazi]

If you're already depressed you describe then you should stay away from alcohol which is a depressant and will make you feel worse in the long run.

I think you are misunderstanding the definition of 'depressant' in the context of alcohol and other recreational drugs.

Alcohol is a depressant, but not in the same context as feeling depressed or having depression. It is classed as a drepressant because it 'depresses' or numbs the central nervous system. It is about how it gives you a buzz not that it makes you sad.

 

[FusionMorelia]

nothing gets you over the EX like getting over the next

 

[FAY]

You pretty much hit exactly how im feeling besides the crying, think i've eaten maybe one meal and half an apple in like 4 days.
Its kind of complicated though which makes it even harder.. had only been getting up to shower then straight back to bed. Decieded today i would try and go out to the gym or something although i doubt ill go to uni.

I am hearing you. It really is a strange feeling. When something drastic happened in my life a long time ago, I couldn't get out of bed for a week. Even though you are not sick as such, that is how you felt. You actually felt hollow inside, like you are just a husk. It is the most horrible feeling and I would never wish it on anyone. It was not a break up but a death. A break up is still like a grieving process and you need to go through it before it starts getting better.
But it does get better, you just have to give it time. You are only young and you WILL look back in time and realise that this person was not worth it.

 

[Laghairt]

Actually, alcohol consumption reduces serotonin, dopamine and epinephrine level (neurotransmitters in your brain); sometimes it has a toxic effect on neurotransmitters. Once the serotonin level drops depression can quickly settle in, especially if you are already dpressed. That is why you feel crap for days after a huge night.

So even if it makes you feel better temporarily, the next day you will sink lower than you already were before you started drinking. The last thing this guy needs is for his brain chemistry to be effected in that way.

I think you are misunderstanding the definition of 'depressant' in the context of alcohol and other recreational drugs.

Alcohol is a depressant, but not in the same context as feeling depressed or having depression. It is classed as a drepressant because it 'depresses' or numbs the central nervous system. It is about how it gives you a buzz not that it makes you sad.

 

[Snakeluvver2]

Go for a run.
Get drunk
Go herping
Go out
Spend a **** load of cash.
Some may seem superficial but hey it works.