new years eve question

[redbellybite]

he wouldve cheated anyway .......dont use I GOT PISSED AND DIDNT KNOW WHAT I WAS DOING .....RUBBISH .if he was in that state of total uncontrol that department wouldnt work either ....people that use that as an excuse are full of it ,,he did a dog act and tried to blame the grog ...he should be on all 4;s like a dog and grovel ...more fool her if she lets his sorry butt back into the house no matter how much he puts on the water works ........

 

[Sturdy]

he wouldve cheated anyway .......dont use I GOT PISSED AND DIDNT KNOW WHAT I WAS DOING .....RUBBISH .if he was in that state of total uncontrol that department wouldnt work either ....people that use that as an excuse are full of it ,,he did a dog act and tried to blame the grog ...he should be on all 4;s like a dog and grovel ...more fool her if she lets his sorry butt back into the house no matter how much he puts on the water works ........

Yeah i think id rather hug a EB than have been the cause of a woman scorned....

 

[bundy_zigg]

she wont ever take him back!

 

[Kyro]

You lot carry on like having kids will cause your life to end, just because you became a parent doesn't mean you gave up your right to be a person anymore. I'm a mum of 6 & of course I don't party like I did when I was younger but I still go out occasionaly & if my partner wants to go out without me then good, I get some time to myself:lol:

 

[coz666]

who wants to sit around home on nye, i have nights out without the mrs and she does the same.
i have 3 kids and it doesnt stop me from doin anything. dont blame his bro , he lives in a different state and if they want to go out , then your just gonna look like an evil cow if you complain. put bikinis on and go down to southbank with the kids and a girlfriend and make a day of it, and if the boys wanna meet up with you later your only over the river.
remember free public transport.

 

[carpetmuncher]

Just think yourself lucky that you have a partner and your kids have a daddy and there is always someone there to take the kids if you need them to.

When your a single mum and you work everyday, and you NEVER go out because you have no-one to babysit, then come back and whinge.

kick along with it.

 

[bundy_zigg]

Hmm

Im not sure what to say about this..
I dont even remember the last time i went out nye. Probably about 7 years ago

Just think yourself lucky that you have a partner and your kids have a daddy and there is always someone there to take the kids if you need them to.

When your a single mum and you work everyday, and you NEVER go out because you have no-one to babysit, then come back and whinge.

sounds like you have a pretty bad family network - you don't have to have a man to look after your kids there are always aunties, grandparents, friends, uncles and loads more its all about networking and having support when you need it, its also good for the child to spend time with their family not just MUM & DAD

 

[Oldbeard]

You should suggest for you(darkangel) to take the brother out and he (inconsiderate bf) stay home to look after the kids.See how he feels when he has no one to kiss at midnight cos the kids will be in bed and you will be out with his brother. See how he likes them apples (splat):lol::lol:
He is being an inconsiderate penis head. Am I allowed to say that cos its not actually a swear word. Unlike the word I would have liked to use. The one that rhymes with stick :lol::lol:

 

[redbellybite]

You lot carry on like having kids will cause your life to end, just because you became a parent doesn't mean you gave up your right to be a person anymore. I'm a mum of 6 & of course I don't party like I did when I was younger but I still go out occasionaly & if my partner wants to go out without me then good, I get some time to myself:lol:

couldnt agree more Kyro ......."feel the serenity" ...........:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

 

[Jewly]

If he was in that state of total uncontrol that department wouldnt work either

I beg to differ on that point....my ex who I consider to be an alcoholic used to get better in the 'bedroom' the drunker he got so that's not always the case with men.

 

[KaaTom]

his brother said he wanted to come up so my bf said ok. i was told after his brother had already put in his holidays. i don't have anyone to look after the kids and even if i did it's a "boy thing" so wouldn't be invited.

I havent had a night out for NYE for almost 15yrs.... Im a single parent but it not my thing either.... I prefer to stay at home, your more than welcome to come here with the kids and we can make a girly night here.
Everyone else with kids that cant get a sitter is also welcome

 

[Jewly]

Hmm

Im not sure what to say about this..
I dont even remember the last time i went out nye. Probably about 7 years ago

Just think yourself lucky that you have a partner and your kids have a daddy and there is always someone there to take the kids if you need them to.

When your a single mum and you work everyday, and you NEVER go out because you have no-one to babysit, then come back and whinge.

I could turn around to you and say, think of all the mother's in third world countries...when you have it that bad, come back and whinge. Just because your situation is different to hers, doesn't mean she should be grateful for the fact that she has a partner and should put up with whatever he wants to dish out.

I've been a single mother for 16 years and I have a better social life than my friends who are married. They are the ones stuck at home taking care of kids while their husbands go off and have a great time and they sit home and stew about it.

Being a single mother doesn't mean you have to be home all the time. As someone else said, you build up a support network over the years and you have people to take care of your kids for the odd times you want to go out without them. I do have family support but I rarely asked for help cause I preferred to be independent. I have friends who I babysit for and who have babysat for me in the past.

While your kids are young, you might not be able to go out as much as you want but I never wanted to go out a lot when my son was younger. When he was old enough to stay home on his own for a few hours at night (13-14) I was able to go out whenever I wanted to and now of course that he's 16 I can come and go as I please and I don't have to ask permission from a partner. Being single is brilliant in my opinion and I know other women at work who are my age who think the same and we now socialise a lot together.

Believe me, being married isn't all it's cracked up to be a lot of the time unless you have a really good partner.

 

[Sel]

sounds like you have a pretty bad family network - you don't have to have a man to look after your kids there are always aunties, grandparents, friends, uncles and loads more its all about networking and having support when you need it, its also good for the child to spend time with their family not just MUM & DAD

I didnt mean you HAVE to have a man. Would certainly help..
And no, i have no family anywhere near me...so cant leave them with uncles, grandparents.
My mum wasnt one to have my kids alll the time, like alot of granparents do..i only ever asked if there was something reallyy important i wanted to go to like a wedding or a work xmas party.

 

[Sel]

Jewly, when did i say she should sit back and take whatever he dishes out??

I said, she was lucky.
I have a couple of friends who look after the kids sometimes, like today when i had to work.. but i dont like to ask anyone to have them. PLus im fussy on who i will leave them with...
I love being single.. itd just be nice to go out and not have to ask people to babysit.. just to be able to leave them behind with dad..

 

[Wild_Storm]

Ok... This is a subject near & dear to me.... I had just had bub #3 when partner's family wanted to visit... He said yes before consulting me, and I too was upset. I won't go into what happened... The Bro KNOWS about you, and still this is a 'boys night out'... If it were me I would be enraged & telling other half royally off!! This is not acceptable. You are FAMILY... Bro had better change his plans... And plan it FAMILY... NOT boys (you don't want to know what they can get up to!!). You go for it !

Of course... This is only MY opinion and it may upset a few guys... But you are bringing in the NEW YEAR as you want the WHOLE year to be.

(The other half & family went out for NYE, but I couldn't go coz there was 'no room'.) It really hurt me. I always thought 'family' meant together and support. If your other half goes out ocassionally, but you are the one who is staying home most of the time... Then I wouldn't be backing down... But that is just me... Lol... Ask my partner about his family's welcome now!! :lol:

 

[Jewly]

Jewly, when did i say she should sit back and take whatever he dishes out??

I said, she was lucky.
I have a couple of friends who look after the kids sometimes, like today when i had to work.. but i dont like to ask anyone to have them. PLus im fussy on who i will leave them with...
I love being single.. itd just be nice to go out and not have to ask people to babysit.. just to be able to leave them behind with dad..

Well, you kinda implied that because she had a partner she should be grateful and not complain....that's all I meant.

I don't look at my friends who have partners and think they are lucky. With most of them I look at them and think, how can you let yourself and your children be treated like that, and still have some self respect. So many women I know put up with so much from their partners cause they think they can't do it on their own, but believe me, they can and often they are much better off being single. There's no way I'd put up with what they do.

I'm not saying all men are bad, cause I know there are some good ones out there, and I also know there are a lot of deadbeat mothers out there too, it works both ways but I think the majority of the woman are the ones that are left with the kids while the husbands do what they want.

 

[serpenttongue]

What makes you think he is not grateful and they are not his top priority?
You have heard very little info about the situation to judge. Infact there is pretty much no info given. The original poster herself has been contradicting in her post (1 minute acting as if she has a problem with him going out, and the next stating she dosn't have an issue and would prefer to stay home with the kids anyway) so how can you possibly make such a suggestion without knowing 1st hand what the facts are? All you have heard is he plans to go out on NYE with his brother. As far as I can see he is not owned, and neither of them had any previous plans made for the night.

1st of all, has the poster discussed the matter at hand with him?
And if so why if it dosn't bother her? (sounds hypocritical to me)
And if not, then how is he meant to know any better?
(is she upset or not? who knows other than herself)

Do they go out alone often?
Never? sometimes?

Has he/she cheated, lied, run away, joined a circus etc in the past?

All those things that may be contributing factors we do not know of.
There is alot more details left out so of course opinions are going to be biased.
but not being grateful? wow, you can tell that by reading a 5 paragraph sentence from a complete stranger over the internet who is/isn't well maybe/maybe not upset. I am amazed. Why do 4 years at tafe to study psychology when you can easily pick it up at home on APS.

Are you done??

She asked for opinions.....i gave mine. Simple as that.

 

[tooninoz]

Go out, get baby sitters, don't get baby sitters, don't go out, your boyfriend is cheating but he's not.
It's rude that he's going out with his brother, but it's acceptable too.
There's an opinion that you asked for
Perhaps sort it out with the boyfriend and you won't need to air your dirty laundry..... so to speak.
Minor issues in life.

 

[Sel]

Well, you kinda implied that because she had a partner she should be grateful and not complain....that's all I meant.

I don't look at my friends who have partners and think they are lucky. With most of them I look at them and think, how can you let yourself and your children be treated like that, and still have some self respect. So many women I know put up with so much from their partners cause they think they can't do it on their own, but believe me, they can and often they are much better off being single. There's no way I'd put up with what they do.

I'm not saying all men are bad, cause I know there are some good ones out there, and I also know there are a lot of deadbeat mothers out there too, it works both ways but I think the majority of the woman are the ones that are left with the kids while the husbands do what they want.

I didnt imply that at all.
Ive been a single mum for 9 years, i split from their dad when i was 4months pregnant because id had enough. ALot of reasons i wont go into.. but im the last person that would tell someone to put up with whatever their partner throws at them.
If her partner went out and left her home EVERY weekend, then id be kicking up a big stink. But its only one night (that i know of)
ANyway, i think she got what she wanted from this thread..

 

[amazonian]

Are you done??

She asked for opinions.....i gave mine. Simple as that.

Sorry you are 100% correct.
He should be grateful that his partner wants to fight with him & place him on the internet to be judged. That explains her situation she described in her own words as "a rocky relationship" the selfish, ungrateful bugger he is. He should pull his head in and tell his brother to wake up to himself too, cancel the flights and organise a DVD night including the Girlfriend for mid week in January sometime.

Then again maybe I have the wrong idea here, after all I havn't seen him complaining or heard of him fighting with her over the matter. But hey she asked for an opinion so we have every right to be judgemental & biased after reading a 1 sided story yeah?