Tut tut, no need to get pointy touchy about it ..... I guess you don't have to deal with bickering kids do you? 8) You'd never have kept me under control with that attitude :lol:
My post wasn't aimed at anyone- and, ummm.. might wanna do some research before you make assumptions- maybe view the odd gallery or just read a man's sig...
And my approach works for me- perhaps your hypothetical scenario is more a self assessment than a judgement of my parental abilities -
I was caned and beaten by primary school teachers, then on the way home by local thugs, then by my folks when they came home- i was beaten like a drum as a young kid and all I learnt was that I could take a beating- and that I would NEVER touch my kid- I made that decision at 9 years old and I stick with it now- along with the decision to take up martial arts and snap the fingers of anybody who attempted to hurt me again !!
Funnily enough it was MMA that taught me there was actually another solution. The irony !!
.. and I have never felt physically threatened by a child....
So when I hear that old excuse often used by molesters and aggressive adults that they suffered as a child and therefore that is the root of the problem- NO WAY. Poor judgement and self discipline is the problem there....if you look at a child's behaviour and somehow think it rlates to whether the child was hit or not- well, ...what can I say- obviously that means that hitting is the answer to the world's problems hey ?
i better go hit my kid right now- I find though that kneeling down and talking to her calmly and directly in the eye does wonders- they accept the advice and feel as though they are being treated like a grown up. I will save my beatings for her boyfriends when she turns 16
....and now I'm ducking out of this before we all start swinging !
anyone who would like to take me to task- feel free to PM me.
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