sorry, my bad. I read the first page a few days ago, only read the last few today and there was a few comments about him being 24.
Nothing wrong with still being at home, I moved home again for 18 months after having moved out years earlier, with a baby in tow.
my point with asking why still be at home was if they're so determined to get a snake against mum's wishes then why not just move out in order to do so.
I also realise that there is virtually nothing to be allergic of with snakes, but it's the same respect wise IMO.
I'm not being a nazi mother, but a LOT of the posts suggested just bringing one home, or telling her she has no choice, or hiding it in the cupboard, all very disrespectful things, and would you suggest that if they were talking about a cat and their mum was allergic??? How is going against her wishes sensible advice??
I agreed with the educating her, and didn't say don't discuss it, but if that has already been done with no results, then it's not fair on her to keep on going!
A lot of fears are irrational, but that doesn't make them any less real to the person who experiences them, and yes, a lot can be treated, but is he offering to pay for all of that for his mum?
And I say no to my child quite often, that doesn't make me a nazi parent, it means my child has boundaries and he knows where he stands. If I always said yes to him he would eat chocolate and donuts for dinner every night. I'm sure most people would consider me to be a worse parent for letting him eat that than saying no he can't have a pet frog because his Dad is terrified of them. It's not a never to a frog, it just means he has to wait till he's an adult and no longer lives with us, same as when he's an adult and I am no longer cooking his meals then he can eat whatever he likes too.
Another thought, what are the licence requirements for a snake? Is the licence in his name, or his mum's because he's under 18? Shouldn't that also play a part? If he is too young to hold a licence in his own name for a snake why should his mum hold the licence for him? Not sure what state the OP is in.
but seriously, is it really going to kill him to wait till he moves out to get a snake? It's not like she has said she will disown him if he ever owns a snake, he just can't have one while living with her. That's what, a few years? depending on how old he is? why is that an issue? I have been waiting 6 years to get a snake, and I'm an adult with children, yes it's a long wait, but I'd rather wait and do things properly than rush it in my impatience to have what I want.
OMG I just asked my son what he wanted for dinner, his reply was carrots, cucumber and green trees (broccoli)
Does that make me a bad nazi parent??? LOL